Inspiring words to share for all us parents aunties uncles grandees and friends at this link above which i read this morning. It has inspired this spontaneous stream of thought. enjoy.
I sure can remember things people have said to me about my body or being
gangly, awkward, too thin, too tall, big bum, bony, unco-ordinated, shy, weird, daggy
most of the above is from other kids! who taught them to think this way about bodies? who criticized them? or who did they hear criticizing themself?
it’s these words which come into me at times of negative self reflection.
i also aim to remember the beautiful observations
graceful, beautiful, healthy, strong, elegant, flexible, brave, calm, reflective, kind, generous
it is such a habit to focus on the things i struggle with or think are my weaknesses
i’d like to move towards recognizing my skills and strengths, accomplishments and achievements and keep on working with the weaker aspects but not dwell on it so much. positive thinking. is it really so simple?
also reflecting recently on how we compliment Lily on how beautiful she’s looking.
i’d like to keep working on replacing this generality with specifics
great outfit, i like the color combo
you look strong when you are climbing
it looks like you are having so much fun with the dog right now
you look happy after you’ve been running around
you are adventurous
you look peaceful this morning, i guess you slept well
your hair is healthy and shiny
i see you so calm and self contained in your crafting, it’s lovely to watch
your body is growing so well and is healthy
i heard you speak so kindly and patiently to Cedar
when you climb so high on the rocks i think you are brave
you thought up a creative solution to that argument
dear daughter of mine
it is an honor to witness your adventurous soul explore the world. I see qualities such as kindness, creativity, patience, strength, courage, softness, grace and good hearted fun shining from you and I can only wonder what the future holds. This moment is quite beautiful with you and I cherish your presence dear Lily. Thankyou for the gifts of self reflection and joy you have given me. You came to me when I was so young and I have grown into the mama/lady/woman I be, on my journey shaped with your presence. Love you my precious darling. xx
what do you have to say on this topic of woman’s/girls body talk?
ps say something friendly to yourself right now.