How To talk to your daughter about her body…

http://hopeave.wordpress.com/2013/07/29/how-to-talk-to-your-daughter-about-her-body/
Inspiring words to share for all us parents aunties uncles grandees and friends at this link above which i read this morning. It has inspired this spontaneous stream of thought. enjoy.

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I sure can remember things people have said to me about my body or being

gangly, awkward, too thin, too tall, big bum, bony, unco-ordinated, shy, weird, daggy

most of the above is from other kids! who taught them to think this way about bodies? who criticized them? or who did they hear criticizing themself?

it’s these words which come into me at times of negative self reflection.

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i also aim to remember the beautiful observations

graceful, beautiful, healthy, strong, elegant, flexible, brave, calm, reflective, kind, generous

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it is such a habit to focus on the things i struggle with or think are my weaknesses

i’d like to move towards recognizing my skills and strengths, accomplishments and achievements and keep on working with the weaker aspects but not dwell on it so much. positive thinking. is it really so simple?

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also reflecting recently on how  we compliment Lily on how beautiful she’s looking.

i’d like to keep working on replacing this generality with specifics

great outfit, i like the color combo

you look strong when you are climbing

it looks like you are having so much fun with the dog right now

you look happy after you’ve been running around

you are adventurous

you look peaceful this morning, i guess you slept well

your hair is healthy and shiny

i see you so calm and self contained in your crafting, it’s lovely to watch

your body is growing so well and is healthy

i heard you speak so kindly and patiently to Cedar

when you climb so high on the rocks i think you are brave

you thought up a creative solution to that argument

etc etc

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dear daughter of mine

it is an honor to witness your adventurous soul explore the world. I see qualities such as kindness, creativity, patience, strength, courage, softness, grace and good hearted fun shining from you and I can only wonder what the future holds. This moment is quite beautiful with you and I cherish your presence dear Lily. Thankyou for the gifts of self reflection and joy you have given me. You came to me when I was so young and I have grown into the mama/lady/woman I be, on my journey shaped with your presence. Love you my precious darling. xx

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what do you have to say on this topic of woman’s/girls body talk?

Roselinde

ps say something friendly to yourself right now.

 

 

 

Cedar’s blanket

When I was pregnant with Cedar I moved far far away from my own family and friends (well mostly, i actually moved a little closer to some..)

At times i felt so lonely on my journey. disconnected from established support as i grew this great belly, endured immense ongoing nausea and began to put tender roots into my new community.

I drew comfort from the idea of a love blanket for this new baby.

I put out a letter to friends old and new, Australian family and distant relatives; to send me yarn in ocean shades and i would craft a blanket for my new babe. Weaving together the threads and thoughts of the beloved people in my life.

From all over Australia and Europe came little parcels, cotton, wool, indigo dyed hemp, silk, mohair, alpaca in all shades and textures. some with tales describing a special ocean moment of the sender for me to enjoy. some with memories of our relationship or good wishes for birth and baby.

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as i crocheted i would hold my thoughts on the sender of the yarn and reflect on our relationship and memories. i knotted the strength of love into this warm wrap for my little one soon coming. {by the way,  i was convinced baby was a little mermaid girl named Iona}

it was a beautiful way to feel connected with my extended network and bring the reality of this baby into my community.

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and now i wrap this gentle, nut brown, three years grown boy in these aquamarine, turqoise, royal blue, azure, teal, deep green, gold and tawny shades; i never fail to be reminded of how precious beloved friends and family are. no matter where i am or they are, the richness of our relationships has the warmth of my heart.

thankyou dear ones, i am thinking of you

do you recognise your yarn?

have you made something special for yours or others babies in utero?

xx

Roselinde

ps on a technical note, i began my first ‘proper’ granny square and kept on expanding from there. most yarns an 8 ply with a 6mm hook. as he grows beyond the bounds of this blanket i imagine i will extend it to single bed size as i did with Lily’s.

cedar baby blanket

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Right now
enjoying a creek bed picnic. Spring creek outside of port douglas. We’ve been staying nearby and cycled down. Fun to be on a bike and feel the wind whipping my hair. ( nice cliche?)
I make Fire. Lily crushes ochre of varied colors.
Cedar carries sticks and stones. Jesse swims then basks lizard like in the sun
Toasted haloumi cheese marshmallows coming up. Mmm

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What are you doing?

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Mid winter Festival

bewarned

the below content is seriously out of date

but i uncovered these words today and i felt a connection still alive for me

and so i share with you belatedly

xx

Traversing the long dark nights of mid winter
I turn to gratitude and reflection in moments
While a light is also shone inwards at my anxiety and trepidation s of adventures ahead
The inner reveal is both joyous and cantankerous and truly everything betwixt

Last night we joined the Winter Festival at Lily’s school

(my first Chrysalis school festival the only other was joining Candlenut school last year, this is a trully beautiful post btw i am vewy pwoud of my sentiments from last year)

Each class created age appropriately complex lanterns of immense diversity and beauty

After the school community sang fire into the bonfire under the rising moon
We joined the children with their lanterns as they brightly snaked singing up the hill through the campus

to chatter with cups of soup and then be enthralled with storytelling and the spiral walk of the children.

each one taking their journey to the centre to light a flame and add their own candle to the brightening room

simple~ beautiful ~ enchanting ~ singing ~ darkening ~ centering

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Class 8 lanterns! stunning!

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I have previously made this style of lantern they glow so beautifully with stars
see here for how to

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the older classes walked this shining labyrinth while the younger classes where indoors walking a spiral or branches to an alter in the centre

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Lily’s lantern featured a tree dropping it’s colored leaves for the winter


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yet my own personal connection to the festival this winter came later in a simple moment of lantern lighting and singing our own composition and bringing the glow through the garden and up to our friends smiles

our own song we composed when Lily was three in Fremantle, we put candles in jars and sang around the block with a friend, passing by our neighbours doorsteps with warmth in our hearts and the simplicity of our own festival.

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we bring the light in the dark night

we sing the songs in the morning

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blessings friends

glimpses of Queensland so far…

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forgive me. i have been so negligent here at RosaLindenTree. {gotta change the name one day, too long, any suggestions?}

so here i am banished out of the bus today for being too grumpy and crotchety {yes it’s not all love and coconuts.}

and i find happy refuge with a friends internet connection! yay. hours and hours of electricity. not a bad punishment.

so here comes a massive catch up with lots of photos and words! awesome.

get yourself a cuppa it’s really loooong…. but good!

a day after flying into Cairns, we are guided to Stoney Creek just north of the city, a beautiful cool place to land and have my first QLD freshwater dunk for the year and then take quiet grounding time to balance stones and add to the growing collection in the creek bed. i am so happy, jesse is so happy, the children are so happy scrambling about and crushing ochre stones. it feels good it feels right and i remember exactly why i am committed to this crazy lifestyle! and i am quickly recovering from my ten day solo pack up and leave Bellingen stint while sick and overwhelmed. thankyou dear friends who helped us and fed and housed us… right back to happy…

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another favorite camp north of Port Douglas, we often come to the creek here for swimming and picnics, today a good ole spaghetti ragu with local produce for lush salad… maybe a week into the trip and we are still all getting on!! yay
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and then another day beaching at Four mile Beach in Port Douglas, if you head to the central or southern end you can completely avoid the holiday crowd…IMG_0259 IMG_0257

ah my boy, IMG_0255

ah my girl,

i think the above two shots could qualify for  the 52 week portraits (a year of portraits of my children

from Che & Fidel)

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the colours of coconut palm and sky

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Lily begins to find her old favorite trees…

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The best forest bath at our friends home…

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happiness! look at the patch of dirt he has worn clear from spinning…

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Our gorgeous friends from Sacred Oz have their incredible Message Stick Vehicle at home this week. I love closely looking at all the diverse Indigenous artworks from all around Australia and often find myself with heart swelling tears. Look here to find out more about this remarkable icon of Australian Reconciliation


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a very rare photograph of Jesse and I {thankyou Michael} and it’s even a genuine joy moment! hooray

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and then to Davies Creek for a week of camping. it was trully blissful even though we arrived on a monday like last year, even though we postphoned the mondayitis to saturdayitis when we left the camp, even though it rained pretty constantly all week, even though i didn’t sleep so well by the rushing water, even though even though… these precious times i hold fast to as reminders of what is possible to experience in our family, remember this Rosi when the reality is far removed from this, remember to connect, remember to have hope, remember that it is not always so, remember to have gratitude, remember to give those little ones lots of hugs… remember, renember, rember, ember

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when we arrive, Jesse gets the fire on and smokes the whole camping area for us. The children get straight into the game of foxes they played here last year… note Lily’s long blue ears and their stripey fur…

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the trees, the creek, the stones, the hairyman in the forest with a hollow stick…IMG_0122

serious rain business to dress up for, making channels for the smaller streams, floating things dowstream, splashing and getting the hangof the balance bike… and getting nearly all your clothes wet numerous times a day! aaarh IMG_0143 IMG_0170

above you see a variety of phases of coconut, in the silver bowl fresh water from a yellow nut as on the left. on the far right an opened young yellow nut with jelly flesh, above an older brown nut whose thick white meat we grate as you can see in the centre and the empty shell can be used as a handy vessel.. mmmm below you see a young nut with a drinking hole deftly cut open…{not my work, i am more savage…}IMG_0162 IMG_0156

monkeying around with slippery coconut jelly meatIMG_0031 IMG_0077

campfire buckwheat pancakes… mmm

here i used buckwheat flour, but my favorite recipe using whole groats is from my friend Carly over at

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noticing i didn’t photograph the rain moments so it looks so dry and fun…

we cope by making delicious food, playing games, reading, letting the kids play in the mud and water, eating something else yummy, going walking and splashing and adventuring, being patient, keeping the interior of the bus as tidy as possible while it’s a laundry site, allowing space and solo moments despite being so confined, making a bush treasure hint, crafting, knitting, writing, sleeping, listening to the water, singing…IMG_0173

had a little coconut frond weaving and made up this little flag fan… ahh it’s soooo hot… not, but it will be soon.IMG_0056

and this beautiful fruit bowl. more on weaving soon… maybe even a tutorialIMG_0190

inside crafting… the discovery of the one dot holepunch brings hours of amusement. poor deprived kids.IMG_0071

then this bear gets completely re outfitted by Lily lovingly.. IMG_0142

Just before departure we finalised this upstairs canvas cot for Lily, we had been dreaming it up for years and now it’s manifest and is awesome! keeps the floor space clear and Cedar has Lily’s up front bed  even though his little old cot was so cute…. Thankyou Marty for the help. It is two bamboo poles with a canvas cot slung between them. clever. good. smart. simpleIMG_0138 IMG_0174 IMG_0175

i’ve had a jaffle maker for a few years and finally christened it! yum. childhood goodness. {basically took so long because i am so uptight i refused to buy square sliced bread! i let go a little when i found some organic spelt loaf.. so neurotic. but admitting it freely xxx {i trully don’t care if you eat square sliced bread by the way, i will eat it with you happily i just love love love sturdy loaves of bread with hard crusts and chewy centres! i also have a few ridiculously stupid high expectations on myself}  ahhh liberation it was soooo yummy!IMG_0136

more good camp food. Babaganusch {spelling?} guacamole, vegies and roast spuds!

can you tell we kept our spirits up by focusing on the meals all week….IMG_0191 IMG_0193

Lily’s early birthday present appeared one morning… a slack line which has brought alot of fun and challenge to us all!!



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a very rare portrait of your’s trully
xxx
well that’s enough blogging to last you a few weeks
see you later
roast potaytas

The games we play…

In my main childhood kitchen there stood a tall narrow white cupboard within arms reach of our kitchen table. Running along one side of the table was a long pine bench my eldest sister made in woodwork. It could seat 6 or more but if you where left for last and put your weight on one end it would tip you right off. (I wonder where that bench is now…) our table was often stuffed with our own family plus guests and the cosy noise and simple meals stay with me. Mum how did you gracefully accommodate another few spontaneous guests to our busy crew and stretch the meals so everyone had enough?
Anyway the cupboard. Open the door and you will find top to bottom crammed with games! Oh joy what shall we play tonight? (today,this morning,now?) no one has to leave the hub to play.
Being the fourth child I was pretty savvy for my age and had to keep up with my elders and for the record I did NOT always cheat! I’m actually very skilled at strategy. So there.
Anyway the cupboard. Where have all those games gone by the way?
Such a variety. I never enjoyed Monopoly, but I did like Cluedo and Chinese checkers and Sagaland (the enchanted forest) and Labyrinth and canasta and Europareise(travel Europe) and Speed and UNO and memory (a german anniversary set with some gorgeous photographs and artworks and a few that scared me) and and so many more.
Many games came from our Grandmother in Switzerland. Perhaps every Christmas? Good Ravensburger brand board games and puzzles with beautiful artwork.
A feature of my childhood play and now a feature of my children’s play. I love love the game times and whether i am playing or overhearing Lily and friends it’s all warm and happy inside for me. (unless there is squabbling of course)
It can be a safe place for playful squabbly banter and venting and teasing. a place of togetherness across all ages, an ice breaker and a bonding tool. It’s good not to take oneself too seriously.
We have a few friends we play games with and I cherish these playful connections.
At my Mums there is still Often a game after dinner, Scrabble or Zilch (dice game)
One rare Christmas at mums with all 6
Siblings and family saw all the adults staying up late playing games. Fun fun wholesome fun.

Great learning is happening for Lily with her numbers and sums with Dice games.

How do games fit into your family?
What’s your top games and why?
How can you play more in your life?
Want to come over for a games night?

Scrabble
Saga land
Labyrinth
UNO
Yahtzee
The orchard
Chinese checkers
Blockus
Zilch
Quirkle
Set
Guess who
Jenga
Boggle
Sequence
Connect four

Spelling Gnome (formerly known as hang man, draw a gnome in stages)

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Right now…

Just hours away from going home!!
Home to our bus, home to papa, home together.
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Jesse will be meeting us in the warm evening of cairns soon. I imagine there will be a green coconut or two for dessert and lots of smiling and that funny exhilarated giggly happiness of coming together again.
Ten days is not long on a calendar, but for me this time has seemed looooooong. I’ve been fighting off a bug And simple exhaustion from moving house 4 times this last month as we gratefully took up our friends house sits to see out the end of school term. Phew!! Thanks all of you.
We’ve stayed in a mud brick mansion, an A frame timber home with fire heated radiators, a shed house, a homely self contained apartment and finally a bus.
Gradually downsizing ready for our own bus!!

Holding steady for two little people when I’m feeling vulnerable is a task gigantum presently. The insight I’ve had is keep it simple. My anxiety lessens when I
Lessen my expectations on myself!
let food be simple. As one friend pointed out a lovingly cooked egg on toast is probably more nutritious than a stressed out complex cooked meal.
Make them eggs, smile and sit with them.
Connection.
Let there be mess. Really. It’s ok Rosi.
Leave dishes in the sink overnight and go read them stories and cuddle.
Let them play. Let them bathe. Let them help.
Ask for help.
Thank you everyone who cooked for us last week…
Have humor switched on.
Be honest with people if I’m not coping.
Remember this too will pass!
One day it will be in the past ( that day is today!!!)
Hooray. (Nervously)
Xx
What makes life more graceful for you at transition times?

Favorite read-aloud/early reader books

 

 

 

 

 

below you will find an incomplete list of some favorite early reader/read aloud books

probably aimed at age 6-12 though you know your own child and what’s appropriate best

i choose books which present good values and stories of human striving, good adventures which aren’t too scary and look for language which is not abusive

you’ll notice they are often set away from the technology of current life to bring imaginative and descriptive food to my girl

some from my own childhood or my mama’s, some from friends, the library, bookshops, online, second hand treasures, gifts and lucky finds

with no television and minimal media time in our family, reading brings a relaxing stimulus individually or with read aloud story time. Our collection of books is fast devoured and then reread so if you have any favorites to recommend me i would be so grateful! travelling allows so much uninterrupted time for Lily to read which has been an unplanned gift.

My reviews are spontaneous and simple, i just wanted to give you a quick idea of the content for ease. You can find these books online at The Book Depository if you have no bookstore in your town, there’s a handy link over there on the right of my webpage…
lily takes care of reading

Mr poppers penguins-the humourous tales of a man’s love for penguins and their mishaps away from Antarctica
The secret garden-an orphan’s blooming into life with the gift of a garden
The little princess-a moving tale of rich’s to rags
The children of noisy village/happy times in noisy village-swedish village life from the perspective of 9 year old Lisa

The sheep pig-a creature who queries the expected and is bold enough to be different and follow his heart
Charlottes web-a classic philosophical tale of friendship and honesty

Pippi long stockings-the strongest most unconventional girl in the world

horse crazy -Australian girls and there horsey adventures by the author of Magic Beach and other popular books

My cat penguin-an Australian boy learns to overcome prejudice and makes an unexpected friend

Tansy magill-an australian girl clever and adventurous(we met the author in Cygnet Tasmania!)

Mr Gallianos circus-the tales of the boy Jimmy joining the circus, his love for animals and his dear friend Lotta

Come to the circus-an orphan girl finds her home in the circus, also kindness friendship and acceptance

The children of cherry tree farm-the adventures and happenings on the farm

Laura ingalls series favorites are little house in the big woods and farmer boy-pioneer stories from USA

The last little cat-a cat looking for a home comes full circle

The secret world of wombats-Humorous and informative insight into wombats and their humans by Jackie French

The BFG-Roald Dahl’s delightful story of a girl kidsnatched and loved by a giant, together they save the world

Charlie and the chocolate factory-from a humble start to a sweet adventure

Tiptoes Lightly-fairy adventures

happy reading people xx

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These little books by Ali Mitgutsch are a firm favorite with all the people’s in our extended family.

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A mini board book to suit little hands the detailed paintings are amusing and packed with character. They have no words and this seems to make them more entertaining as we make up our own stories and there’s no distraction from the beautiful and funny scenes.
There are books of the seasons(European) farm life, town life, city life and others I can’t remember right now. Also start to finish story’s like from bees to honey…
We have a lot of them and today sticky taping this ones page back in( as a baby Cedar gnawed off the spine, lily very cross because she is still firmly attached to them) I’m reminded of how I really really must share them! As a wee one Lily would peruse them for hours when we where driving, or nibble the corners…
Anyway truly beloved and highly recommended. I think they may not have English translations… Hehee
You can find them here:)
Do your babies chew on books too?

Ps did you notice all those herb bottles, yes there is a cough in the house unfortunately. Seems to come when we are doing a big move… I’m working on that.